Well its that time of year again, Another year gone, another starts. So let’s have some New year’s let it be words of wisdom. Let it be! Get your pencil sharpened, your eraser even readier, and lets start that list of resolutions. Or, lets not! There are hundreds if not thousands of resolution and positivity monkeys out there. Ready and willing to peddle you their wares, their systems their formulas for new year success. But I’m going to attack this subject from a very conciliatory, base camp kind of angle.
Lets start by stating for the record, clearly and concisely that the 31st January (or wherever your denomination chooses to allocate new year. Its a con, a roués, A commercial fall frontal attack on the relevance of one day, to generate more income. It matters not a jot. The day you call time on the past and move on to whatever your venture or calling is, is whatever day you want it to be.
So your hopes and aspirations are no the content of this post. The core subject matter is drawing a line from where you are now. Parcelling up what has gone, understanding and accepting that how you revise, repair of even disregard it. It will never be as it was. I’m not for a single second belittling or simplifying the dereliction of your past. But highlighting the basic human need to move forward with purpose, and without energy sapping baggage.
Your past is your past. This post is a considerably heartfelt wrench through my own social history. So rest assured I write from pure experience. Not from re-purposed content. Not from trolling through hectares of self-help dirge.
So given the fact a date has no relevance. Why now! Some would say a bit hypocritical. Some, are more than welcome to their opinion. But as always a song I heard over this period of time brought this outpouring of emotion to light. But that is only one third of the story. Two thirds of this post have its roots in movies, and fictitious ones at that!
The first is Love Actually. The scene is of unrequited impossible love that exists in one but not the other protagonist. Its that moment of release and unburdening of your feelings, that allow you to move on. The context of the scene is One man’s love, for another’s wife. But the salient point is I’ve bared my soul. I can do no more. Its time to move on.
“Enough now. Enough”.
The second is a little known film called ‘Star Wars-The Force Awakens’. Before the scoffing starts. No, I’m not perched over my keyboard dressed as a stormtrooper, neither is my light sabre at hand. In fact it is Sentence or to that is so pinpoint accurate its quite significant and self propelling.
“The belonging you seek is not behind you, it is in front of you”.
You can tinker, reprise, repair or disregard what has gone before. But you CAN’T change it. It is scientifically impossible. So call an end to it. There are probably endless metaphors to encompass this. But this seems pretty apt “mental baggage slows you down”.
So to the Music. The track that hopefully compels you to re-evaluate, re-organise or just plain old brush the ghosts of the past away, allowing you to tread the boards of you own onward stage. “Let it be” “>>by The Beatles. Its anthemic, It’s spiritual, its rousing….in short a true Classic. The two verses that really pull my dampened heart strings are the following:-
“..and when all the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be
For though they may be parted
There is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be”
There it is. Hope, faith and forward momentum. Please excuse the religious denomination of ‘Mother Mary’. Just replace that with your own inner strength, your person to lean on, or religious icon of your choice. This song is for everyone.
In my opening foray. I did somewhat unfairly deride the anti-procrastination, positivity brigade. But in fairness amongst the charlatans and hawkers there is truth and there is gold in them there hills. You can not achieve anything without effort or determination. So dump the saddle bags of the past and move on.
It may well be new years eve at midnight of any random significant juncture in your life. But as Les Brown, a highly credible self motivator states:-
“Find out what it is you want, and go after it as if your life depends on it. Why? Because it does,”
So have a happy significant year, and lifetime when ever you choose to start. Take it from embittered personal experience. Its not easy. But it is ultimately necessary.